Have you ever wondered what would make your relationships better or more long-lasting? Hint: it’s a combination of things you may be taking for granted. It’s no secret that it takes two to tango, or in this case, to make a relationship work well.
Not to mention that the healthier your connections are, the more you and the other person will feel happier and at peace. Here’s what you need to know about some essential elements of any thriving relationship.
We tend to avoid difficult conversations, thinking it could possibly damage the relationship or at worst, cause it to end.
But how you approach a problem or disagreement can often be the difference between making or breaking the relationship you have with your family member, friend, colleague or significant other.
What’s more important is how you say something, rather than what you’re saying. So, be conscious of your tone and phrasing as it will also help you approach sensitive topics with more ease.
At the same time, it’s important to not put off things that have upset you or the other person. Thinking it will blow away on its own or the other person will get over it can add to resentment and feelings of bitterness.
After ensuring the time and place is appropriate, make sure that when you sit down with them, the agenda is to respectfully treat any misconceptions, misinterpretations and/or hurt feelings. A little bit of effort will go a long way.
You won’t always agree with your family, friend, colleague, or spouse. Neither will they act the way you want them to. This is when you must remind yourself that just like you, they are their own person with individual feelings, aspirations, and desires.
Take a moment to pause and calm your nerves if you feel irritated. It’s okay, and even healthy, to disagree on things, as long as your values align with each other’s.
Letting go of mistakes is essential to making any kind of relationship work. Rather than keeping a count of all the times they’ve fallen short, think about the value they bring to your lives.
Avoid keeping a score of all the things you’ve done right and all the times they’ve messed up. That’s the fastest route to destruction for any and all relationships. Remember, it’s not about which one of you has tried the hardest. In reality, it could be neither.
It may sound like a cliché, but teamwork actually makes the dream work. One of the most essential aspects of any successful relationship is making sure both persons take responsibility of their actions.
This is a great way to build trust and a culture of honesty between yourself and your friend, colleague, family member, etc. Ensure that the other person’s viewpoint is understood and respected, as it is imperative to sustaining a relationship.
When you see each other as working towards a common goal irrespective of your differences, you will make active effort to maintain a happy, working relationship.
There’s no one route to building a successful relationship, nor can you improve things overnight.
But these practical tips can help you overtime provided both persons consciously and constantly make effort to build trust, honesty, take responsibility, and respect boundaries.
Remember, giving priority to your relationships is something that cannot happen one-way. But if you have a good understanding with the other person, it can pave the way for a long-lasting relationship.